The Art of Asking for What You Want.
Mark Astarita
26th March 2024
Last week I received an email out of the blue that made me smile. I have permission to share it with you and I wanted to do so, to as it’s a great reminder to all fundraisers especially, as well as candidates looking for new roles, to be brave – and that if you don’t ask, you don’t get. And if you ask beautifully, you are unlikely to be ignored and will stand out from the crowd.
The email started with a reminder of our shared past and this person’s expertise as a highly successful fundraiser…
I hope you are well, and don’t mind me reaching out in this manner. I’m taking a wild stab in the dark here, in the hope that you might remember me. A few years ago, we spent an afternoon together whilst you observed my work as a door-to-door fundraiser, representing the British Red Cross. At the time, I was one of the highest performing fundraisers in the country, on the verge of setting up my own direct marketing company. My business proved a roaring success, sustaining an unparalleled retention rate, generating millions in revenue for numerous charitable organisations… most favourably the British Red Cross of course!
That afternoon we spent pacing the streets of East London left a huge impression on me. It was just over 10 years ago now, but I distinctly recall bonding over our love of motorbikes and the phenomenal work the Red Cross do. I left our encounter feeling deeply inspired by your story and have since been committed to working in sectors that make a positive and powerful difference.
…before going to on to ask directly for what she wants now:
My reason for reaching out now, (and I must stress that I sincerely hope it is not too cheeky to do so), is that I am looking for a new career opportunity and the chance to use my skills to make an incredible difference in the charity sector again. Recently, I've become a member of a fundraising board, on a volunteer basis, further securing my desire to apply myself fully in this field again; which explains why you are reading this email right now.
It would mean such a lot to me if I were able to steal a little bit of your time to pick your brains on what might be my best way to move forward. Perhaps you may know of an organisation that needs an ambitious, tenacious, self-starter like me? Or alternatively, I'd value any words of wisdom that could help me identify possible gaps I may need to fill, in order to get to where I want to be.
And then closing with a very personal thank you:
I appreciate how busy you must be however, so if nothing else, please consider this a long overdue thank you for the invite I received to the BRC garden party at Buckingham Palace. I believe you were responsible for that invite and let me just say, the whole day was wonderful...the cucumber sandwiches were sublime!
It was an email that made me recall getting a similarly lovely letter along with a CV in my first few weeks as Director of Fundraising at the British Red Cross, asking for opportunities. It was from the one and only Tanya Steele – within a few days she was volunteering at the charity and today she is the CEO of WWF. She asked, I noticed, and the rest is history.
It’s a direct approach that has proved successful in my career before. Some years before I met Tanya, our wonderful Patron where I was working as Director of Fundraising and Communications at the National Deaf Children’s Society signed six very speculative letters to potential major donors for a capital build. Five out of the six responded and donated – the largest had never had a previous connection with the charity and won naming rights because of the size of the gift.
The key lesson here is that approaches were very personal, appealing and direct – above all you need to ask specifically for what you want; heck what have you got to lose by not trying and then trying again?
Oh and yes the email sender is having coffee with me next week. I look forward to hearing all her news 10 years on.